Things that Matter
By Buddy Bankhead
June 30, 2016 at 1:57 p.m.
"A good wife who can find. Her price is far above rubies," Proverbs 31. These words along with all the rest of this great chapter in our Bible describe my wife of fifty-four years!
This morning, June 23, at first light, I arise to pay tribute to Betty Jean whom I have known and loved for more than these fifty four years. Can you imagine how much she mattered back then and how much more she matters today. How little, though, we must have known back then in 1962 compared to what we know today!
But there we were standing before many of you in the crowded Macedonia Baptist Church pledging our love to each other "till death do us part." We must have known what we were doing. Certainly our understanding has grown each year since then. And appreciation. God has blessed us more than I can say.
Needless to say at our age, we've got more years behind us than we've got ahead, but here we are in these "Golden years" living on what we call "Moonlight Bay" especially Sunday evening when that "Strawberry moon" cast its full light across Lake Murvaul! Made to order! Did he do that just for us? Through the years, we have seen many full moons reflecting across the water. I can still hear Martha Hopkins saying, "Bud, you and Betty better go down on the pier and take in that full moon: it's time to court!"
With this wonderful God-given institution on my mind, and having been under the influence of strong medication for that mysterious and unexplained pain following surgery, I need your help. Did I hear, read, or dream that the Pope, of all people, said that because people, at the time of their "marriage" may not have understood that this union was for a lifetime commitment, that it was intended to result in building a home that was to last, that because of their lack of knowledge of all this that they really didn't have a marriage for which they should be held accountable? Did I hear that correctly? Did you hear that? Maybe, maybe not. I do want to say, with biblical authority, that marriage, between a man and a woman, is to be entered into with full understanding and advisement, with the consent of those present and with accountability. It really is "for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness or in health." "For this cause, let a man leave his father and mother and cleave to his wife." "What therefore God has joined together, let not man put asunder." Sound familiar? That is God's design and plan.
Check it out. If you said "I do," or "I will," to to the preacher's words, or the JP's or the ship's captain, you are accountable! If you are married, then stay married. Problems will arise, but work it out. You'll both be better for it. Marriage is like gum: the sweet taste may not last, but the commitment should. Remember, you promised. You vowed! You will find that "the best is yet to be!" You can be a blessing to each other, you will bring out the best in each other, and your children will be blessed.
Thank you for reading this. If some of it doesn't make sense, remember it's early in the morning, my bride is still asleep, hasn't made coffee, and I'm still taking medicine. Read your Bible on these things. Understand, realize, and appreciate what our Creator has designed for our happiness. He knows what He's doing.